MAN'S NORMAL INSTINCT FOR IMPERSONAL SEX

Michael Gilbert has written a book called The Disposable Male. In it, he makes the case for strengthening the family to help men overcome their instinctive obsession with sex. He says man's need for immediate gratification is a universal phenomenon. In every culture, males demonstrate more compulsion, more aggression, and less discrimination when it has anything to do with sex. Gilbert says nature did not favor the sensitive male. If he dallied, a man's potency might falter, or maybe he got killed. Numerous fleeting, nimble-footed forays were the way to genetic immortality--or at least to a good time.

Ever on the lookout for young healthy females, ancestral males developed a sexual approach designed for breadth, not depth. Rapid visuals were in, long courtship was out. The "quickie" was born and seems to be ever present and even encouraged by many in this younger generation of women. These dynamics help explain the persistent male interest in porn. Crude, in-your-face, anonymous female nudity sends male blood rushing. Porn may be failed imagination, or just brute instinct given shape. Either way it appeals directly to the testosterone-addled hunter who is alive and often pumped in today's man. Let's face it--men are looking for meaningful relationships for one night.

So what should women do? Don't be so easy that the guy is up and running as soon as he gets what he wants. Whether he's younger than you or not, you can't give in to his demands until you have a meaningful relationship for a period of time.