JOHN EDWARDS--UNFAITHFUL? PROBABLY

The sex police are out and screaming their heads off about John Edwards and his supposed infidelity with Rielle Hunter, who is reportedly the mother of his love child.
This story has too many factual details to be untrue, but, let's face it, Edwards is a hunk, a man, a politician, wealthy, and often on the road alone. Is anyone surprised? I really do think it's time to stop dwelling on everyone's sexuality. Those who say "if a man will lie to his wife about an affair, he'll lie about anything" must be living on a different planet. There aren't very many men who tell their wives the truth about their infidelity, and the statistics on infidelity are soaring. So...if we want men in public office who will tell truth when they are unfaithful, or men who are never unfaithful, we are going to have to resort to women in charge because you just aren't going to find men who meet that standard unless they're comatose. Speaking of comatose...was that the problem with Jimmy Carter, and now George W. Bush, both of whom appear to have been faithful to their wives but lied like hell about all the important things.

And just wait--we might hear more from Larry Sinclair and the boys who have enjoyed the pleasure of Obama or will they all wind up dead? Three young men, including one of the gay men in Obama's church died mysteriously. I know I'm going to get flack on this one, not on Edwards because he has never represented himself to be the Messiah, but Obama--pure as the driven snow. Oh sure. Puleez!

MAN'S NORMAL INSTINCT FOR IMPERSONAL SEX

Michael Gilbert has written a book called The Disposable Male. In it, he makes the case for strengthening the family to help men overcome their instinctive obsession with sex. He says man's need for immediate gratification is a universal phenomenon. In every culture, males demonstrate more compulsion, more aggression, and less discrimination when it has anything to do with sex. Gilbert says nature did not favor the sensitive male. If he dallied, a man's potency might falter, or maybe he got killed. Numerous fleeting, nimble-footed forays were the way to genetic immortality--or at least to a good time.

Ever on the lookout for young healthy females, ancestral males developed a sexual approach designed for breadth, not depth. Rapid visuals were in, long courtship was out. The "quickie" was born and seems to be ever present and even encouraged by many in this younger generation of women. These dynamics help explain the persistent male interest in porn. Crude, in-your-face, anonymous female nudity sends male blood rushing. Porn may be failed imagination, or just brute instinct given shape. Either way it appeals directly to the testosterone-addled hunter who is alive and often pumped in today's man. Let's face it--men are looking for meaningful relationships for one night.

So what should women do? Don't be so easy that the guy is up and running as soon as he gets what he wants. Whether he's younger than you or not, you can't give in to his demands until you have a meaningful relationship for a period of time.