For a Cougar, during happy hour, trendy upscale bars in good neighborhoods are feeding grounds. Treat them as if they’re like the trading floor at the NYSE, a place to invest yourself, a place to score. Go to any watering hole where the investment bankers, the lawyers and other business men go to cut loose, and you’ll be in fertile territory. They are there to unwind, to strut and puff, to network and to sooth their jagged nerves from a day of stress, cold calls, meetings, negotiations and the even the disappointments that go with the job. Women who work are in the same frame of mind, but it’s also a time to flirt and to enjoy the company of the opposite sex without the parameters of the office. Plenty of young women in their twenties know about these places so they are definitely your competition. Best to take charge, make the first move, and radiate high intensity with a glowing smile.
Who to target; who not to target?
If you’re going for the best looking alpha male in the group, you’re likely to be wasting your time. He’s so sought after, he has his pick and is probably used to being the selector. He might just slice you off at the knees with a wise remark about your age. If you have a tough hide, you can risk it, but if you’re sensitive, steer clear of him. Even if he’s attracted to a gorgeous woman older than he is, he’s likely to want to stake her out instead of the other way around. On the other hand, you don’t want the Nebbish of the group--shy, withdrawn, insecure and panting for any woman who comes along. He’s the one who's not having much to say--the guy who is ignored by the younger women. He’s not a good bet for you. Too needy, too insecure. Who is the right prey? He’s the guy with good looks but not so full of himself, approachable, willing to flirt, and sending signals that he’s interested.
So, get yourself dressed for the kill and go for it.
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2 comments:
I believe you would need to elaborate on dressed to kill.
From my perspective there are those women, who it would appear think that flashing lots of leg and cleavage are the way to get attention. Yes, if you are only looking for a one night stand and as likely to be remembered as an item buried in page 12 of yesterdays newspapers.
Then there are those women, that can accessorize well. Hats, handbags, gloves. Women, where the accessory draws attention to the woman not the other way around. A necklace can do wonders for the eyes, and can complement the neck.
There are various ways a woman can dress if she wishes to gain attention from the opposite sex and I guess from the same sex if that is her wont.
I just feel that the phrase "dressed to kill" often gives a woman the feeling that the less she wears, the more attention she is going to get and this is often not the case. To my mind, dressing like it is the warmest day of the year on a cool evening, is not going to do you any favours, and in fact is more than likely to have a great neon "no entry" sign over your head, unless all you are after is a one stand, then go right ahead.
This is what boggles my mind, about women who complain about not attracting the right type, or always picking losers. Of course, you are, if you dress a certain way and put out all the wrong signals about being desperate.
A woman dressed well should be like a present, all the anticipation of what it is going to be like once open. Rather than looking as though she has been re-gifted multiple times and the only place left for her is at a yard sale on the $1 or less table.
Dressed for the kill means dressing to look your best, something soft and feminine in a color most flattering to a woman's own coloring. It doesn't mean dressing like a tart.
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