Monday, November 26, 2007
The Wisdom of Benjamin Franklin
"Sure, I prefer older women," said one 38-year-old man. "When I do something nice for an older woman, she is so grateful, and let's me know it. With her, I don't feel as if I'm just another useful tool in her kitchen drawer." Showing a man that he's appreciated can be an elixir for him, at times even more than food or sex. And that's something you don't hear much about in self help books or women's magazines. A man will go to the ends of the earth if he feels wanted, recognized, adored. So the next time your man brings a gift or vacuums the inside of your car or runs out to help bring groceries in without being asked, let him know how much you appreciate him. If you don't acknowledge his thoughtfulness, there's a good likelihood it won't continue. Younger women often take men for granted as if they're entitled to whatever is done for them. And living with a woman who has this sense of entitlement will cause a man to stay late at work or to spend a lot of time at his computer in a room with a closed door or maybe stop coming home at all. This is just one of the many reasons men seek the companionship of older women. She expects less and is so demonstrably appreciative when she is indulged that it makes a man want to hang around to keep on caring for her. Did Benjamin Franklin get it right when he said, "Older women don't tell, don't swell, and they're grateful as hell."